Everything that I've said up to this point has been under the assumption that the struggle of infertility has already been shared with you. But what about all the couples that have not "come out of the closet"? Believe it or not, not all infertile couples are cool with putting all of their business on the internet for the whole world to see, like I am. haha. ;) My encouragement is to deny yourself the pleasure of fulfilled curiosity- do not ask people or tease about when they are going to have kids. :) You do not know what is going on in this private area of their life as a couple, and they should not be put on the spot to tell you. She could have gotten a negative pregnancy test that day. They could have just experienced a miscarriage. They may be on their third year of trying. It is always best not to go there, unless invited in. You will be appreciated, whether or not you know it. :)
Well that's it folks. Thank you so much for the positive feedback you've given me through this series. It makes me so happy to know that there are people who are trying to be sensitive, and eager to know how they can encourage others. :)
just popping in to check in on you all! <3 Praying for you - xoxo
ReplyDeleteYes! We all need to wipe the "so... when are you two having kids?" question from our vocabulary! Even if the couple doesn't have infertility issues,there are other reasons why they can't start a family when they want to (school, finances, etc.), instead of assuming they don't want kids right now. Usually we are too polite to respond, "None of your bees wax!" So let's just not go there! :)
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