Saturday, March 2, 2013

Failed Match

Our match left just as quickly as it came. We received a call from our social worker last night, and Q has decided that she wants to parent her baby. This is her right and it always has been. Her role has been expectant mom with the intention of placing her baby for adoption with us. Though we were hopeful, Ryan and I knew going into this that it wasn't a done deal until the papers were signed after the birth. We also knew that Q had been going back and forth on this over the last couple of weeks. We are very thankful that she came to this conclusion before we met the baby at the hospital. Q has her reasons, and we don't harbor any bitter feelings toward her. I trust that you, as our supporters, will respect her decision as well. 

Ryan and I are doing ok. Though, this is a bit of a set back in our plans, it is still God's Plan A. We are not depressed and we do not feel like we are at square one all over again. There will be another birthmom and another baby. This particular one was not for us. We know that we are meant to be parents to one special little soul, and she is not in Q's belly after all. God is still good and in control. We will continue to wait on Him. Please keep us in your prayers. <3

15 comments:

  1. My heart just broke for you, you are in my thoughs, stay strong.

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  2. You're in our thoughts and prayers, we love you guys

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  3. I am so sorry, Denay. Love and hugs your way.

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  4. You are in my prayers, so sorry for this loss, Denay

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  5. This is the path the Lord has you on to bring your child to you, whomever they may be. Stay strong and hopeful, God is trustworthy :O)

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  6. your faith and trust in God is encouraging. I admire both of you very much. Hold strong together in prayer, as You have MANY people praying for you. Our God, creator of heaven and earth is in control. Rest in Him. J

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  7. Denay my heart goes out to you and Ryan. My heart stopped when I read the words and now I can't stop crying. You and Ryan are two strong people of God and I know that y'all are focusing on Him now. Know that my husband and I are praying for you and for your future child. I wish I could reach through the screen to hug you now. I wish that I had more powerful and helpful words than "I'm sorry." Just know that you and Ryan will remain in our prayers.

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  8. Miller family! Aaron and I are saddened by this news, we will continue to pray and be faithful in trusting in the Lords plan for you and baby miller. We know that he is faithful and trustworthy. Love The Diemel's

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  9. I'm so sorry! You have a great attitude about it. Praying God brings you your special little one very soon.

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  10. Denay... my heart breaks for you guys, yet I'm so inspired by your faith through it. Nothing about this journey is easy. Praying God's swift and overwhelming blessing on you two.

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  11. Ryan And Denay,
    My Heart Hurts For You, And There Are No Words That I Can Say That Will Make This Situation Any Better. I Too Am So Grateful To God That Q Decided Before You Were In the Hospital Room Meeting The Baby, That She Was Going To Parent Her Child. It Would Have Been So Hard If You Had Met Her, And Taken Her Home..And Then To Be Told She Had Changed Her Mind.
    I Can Not Say That I Would Handle This As Well As You Are. I Am Praying For You Both Daily, That God Would Heal The Hurt That Comes From This. I Know There Is A Baby Miller Out There Somewhere JUST FOR YOU!
    I Am So Grateful For All the Awesome Support You Have From Both Of Your Families, And All Of Your Friends.
    Much Love To You Both!

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  12. Praying so much for you, Denay. *hug* God has you in His hands.

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  13. We are praying for you guys!!!! We have been speechless, heartbroken for you, crying, praying. I have written and deleted respnoses here so many times in the last couple days, but I just don't have the right words, we can just cry out to the Lord knowing He has the answers. You have no clue how much I just want to run over there and hug you! We hope with you, pray with you, wait with you, anticipate the next step with you.
    We love you both so much....Uncle Mar and Aunt Kellie

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  14. I'm so sorry to hear this news...my heart breaks for you both.

    I'll be praying hard for you, that the little one God has intended for you comes quickly, and that you'll continue to find peace in the meantime!

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  15. So sorry to hear the bad news for your family as well. We are constantly praying for all people in the adoption triad. I think it is so cool how we can go through such a painful process like a failed placement but still respect and love babys mom. I know it will happen for both of us one day, just not in our timeline. Stay stong.
    Shaileen and Kurt
    PS... your blog is awesome and look forward to seeing more posts!

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